Baby Shower Gifts When You Fear How They’ll Raise Children | baby shower gifts

Gentle Readers,

A small contingent of the family that I actually have a relationship with believes that I should stop being a lesbian and marry a man. I don’t know why this younger relative has decided to be such an ass, but he has. I don’t argue with it. I just avoid him as much as possible. I don’t have time for such ridiculous ideas. I am a lesbian. It’s not up for debate.

However, he also has a baby on the way and I have a family duty to let this little girl know that there are many ways to be a good human.

Thus began my quest to find baby books that would not be overtly LGBT-friendly, but covertly allow her to know that there are many wonderful differences in the world.

It’s a fine line. Nothing can say, “Hey your relative is a lesbian and she’s okay,” outright. I just need to plant the seeds that diversity of thought, ethnic group, and sexuality is okay.  To be extra covert, I bought some books that had no such intent, just some wonderful books that any baby would be delighted to chew on. I’m hoping the parents don’t notice what I’m doing.

The baby shower gifts I chose

Spots and Dots (Art Baby) – A beautiful book that can attract a baby’s eye. I think that there should be more art and beauty in everyone’s life.

More More More –  A book about being loved and cared for by parents. This concept is harder for my family than it should be. I hope that the cycle ends.

Spot Goes to the Farm – Dogs need adventures, too. This family member is least likely to leave a fifty-mile radius from his home. He would be well-served by learning about other ways of life. The world is less scary than he imagines.

Baby Loves Quantum Physics – Introducing hard concepts early even just briefly does wonders for expanding imaginations and belief in what is possible. And I’m a nerd who hopes to contribute to other people becoming nerds. My house growing up was filled with upper level books and I remember reading encyclopedias of science. I loved the concepts and hope she does too. I am no scientist now, but my life is enriched by hard concepts.

Whoever You Are = Accepting our differences and our similarities and loving that. This focuses on ethnic groups and nationalities. It’s a Reading Rainbow book and Levar Burton is hard to argue with.

We’re Different, We’re The Same = Sesame Street is hard to argue with, as well. Another book that focuses on visible differences rather than sexuality and gender identity.

Did I toe the line close enough? No rainbows, no two mommies, no genderqueer puppies. Just the smallest idea that there are more ways to be in the world.  Hopefully the parents won’t shut out this idea, but I must be careful.

How do you think I did in this quest?

My Current Situation

Gentle Reader,

I am in debt. I do not wish to be. I wish to be able to retire early and only do the type of work that makes me feel better about the world. This blog is a personal attempt to document improving my financial situation while trying to improve the world.

I began life poor. I am now fortunate to be a professional in a city away from my former poverty. Jumping classes means that I look around and see a world I do not know. I am still learning how to navigate and master this new world.

This blog will document my journey to financial freedom, but it is also a place for me to share my plans to make the world more decent and fair. Largely, this will involve my being more decent and fair. A place for me to grow.
Every great journey must have an origin story, and your heroine, ZJ Thorne, has one ready for you.
In the past few weeks, a friend, Mabel, suggested that I buy her coop. I ran the numbers, and realized that even if I wanted her coop, I could not afford it. However, running the numbers made me realize how much I want out of my current living situation. Mabel inspired me to get serious.
Thankfully, my journey is not just my own. I have the pleasure of being in a relationship with The Beautiful One, TBO. She is not at a place where our relationship involves co-habitating, and thus, I decided that I need to focus on getting my financial house in order so that I can buy my way out of living with my PAR, passive-aggressive roommate, in the next year, if possible.
My professional life sees me as a W2 employee who bounces between gigs and the owner of a small business in a niche in the same field. My income varies greatly and feels impossible to predict, which has added that extra kink into planning.
My personal life is that of a young lesbian in a serious relationship with TBO in a major US city.
My hope is to conquer my personal and educational debt and achieve enough passive income to only accept the type of work that brings me joy.
My hope is to live in a place where I share the bathroom with noone I am not in love with.
My hope is to continue growing as a human and to encourage deep thinking about the world, and then seeking to change what can be changed.
My hope is to share that journey with you.
Inspired by J. Money,  I will share my net worth on a regular basis. The situation is dire, my net worth is negative $150,000. A very large, very negative number.
Date 3/28/2016 4/1/2016 4/8/2016 4/15/2016
Joy 1097 1097 1097
Travel 752 322 322
Down Payment 284 18 18
retirement 221 21 21
health 45 45 45
Moving 31 31 31
EF 9 9 9
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 471 1066 907
IRA 6928 6885 7026
Brokerage 220 217 221
CC (largest) -11883.98 -983 0
CC (longest) -567.28 0 0
Rewards Card -2762 -2850 -3000
SL 1 -101791 -101892
SL 2 -44970 -45001
Earnest -10000 -10009 -10036
–$151,164.31 -151728 -150890.71 -150230.71
-1.0% change -1.0% change .99% change .99% change
So this is where I begin my journey. Thank you for joining me on it.
I’d love to hear how your Financial Freedom is going.