This Would Have Been a Book Review If They Had Done Their Homework

Gentle Readers,

I was asked to read “It Is Only Money and It Grows on Trees!”  and I was given a free copy and asked to review it for y’all.

Essentially, this book wants to get folks to understand their beliefs about money. Which could be an interesting topic, but this book wants to discuss religious ideas about money. Again, this could be fascinating, but I personally have no interest in whether “Mary was a truly spiritual woman.” I could have read more, but slightly further down page 8, this book clarified that part of its hope is to mark off who is a good Christian or not, i.e.”Frank and Mary were both Christians. Or maybe we should say they both went to church.” There is so much judgment in this phrasing. As a person raised by fundamentalists, I’m not down for subjecting myself to this book.

This makes me suspect that the people who reached out to me had not read my blog at all. I am not a religious person. I wrote openly about this when I was telling y’all how to be better allies when the LGBT community suffered the horrifying attack this summer.

In case you don’t want to click through,

“14. Don’t take personal offense if an LGBTQ person does not want your prayer – so many of your religions have been used to bludgeon us. At times, to death. If you are praying to comfort us, you may want to consider our actual experiences with people using praying as a weapon to “pray the gay away” and how it would make you feel if strangers prayed about the way you experienced sex and intimacy.”

You should do your homework before asking someone to do something for you. I know that not all lesbians are atheists, but part of being a respectful neighbor includes being careful when you bring up your religion. You should not assume that it is a welcome conversation for folks. It is deeply private and personal for many people. The fact that you live in a nation that is largely one religion does not make it any more polite to assume folks want such a fraught topic brought up.

I only read books that interest me, because there is only so much joy and time in the world. I won’t be reading this one.

Have you ever been confused by someone’s request because it did not take into account who you are as a person?