Net Worth Week 34 – Overtime Edition

11/18/16 11/25/16 12/2/16
Joy 1102 1102 1102
Travel 324 324 324
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 309 309 309
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 2288 1632  2617
IRA 10004 10170  10124
Brokerage 400 406  399
CC (largest) -4370 -4332  -4341
CC (longest) 0 0 -98
Rewards Card -454 -1443  -1683
SL 1 -103247 -103378  -103477
SL 2 -45461 -45521  -45566
Earnest -7335 -7351  -7364
Net Worth -146069 -147712  -147283
Percentage Change .15% -1.12% .29%

How are your Decembers starting?

Net Worth Week 33 – Thanksgiving Leftovers Edition

11/11/16 11/18/16 11/25/16
Joy 1102 1102 1102
Travel 324 324 324
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 309 309 309
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 1475 2288  1632
IRA 9965 10004  10170
Brokerage 396 400  406
CC (largest) -4390 -4370  -4332
CC (longest) 0 0 0
Rewards Card 0 -454  -1443
SL 1 -103115 -103247  -103378
SL 2 -45401 -45461  -45521
Earnest -7318 -7335  -7351
Net Worth -146293 -146069  -147712
Percentage Change .40% .15% -1.12%

Are you enjoying rest this Holiday Weekend?

Net Worth Week 32

11/4/16 11/11/16 11/18/16
Joy 1101 1102 1102
Travel 324 324 324
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 105 309 309
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 2256 1475  2288
IRA 9773 9965  10004
Brokerage 377 396  400
CC (largest) -4479 -4390  -4370
CC (longest) 0 0 0
Rewards Card -199 0  -454
SL 1 -103275 -103115  -103247
SL 2 -45474 -45401  -45461
Earnest -7768 -7318  -7335
Net Worth -146887 -146293  -146069
Percentage Change .15% .40% .15%

Are you ready for Thanksgiving?

Net Worth Week 31 – Sick and Tired

10/28/16 11/4/16 11/11/16
Joy 1101 1102 1102
Travel 323 324 324
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 105 105 309
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 2145 2256  1475
IRA 9917 9773  9954
Brokerage 391 377  396
CC (largest) -4499 -4479  -4390
CC (longest) 0 0 0
Rewards Card -647 -199  0
SL 1 -103159 -103275  -103115
SL 2 -45421 -45474  -45401
Earnest -7752 -7768  -7318
Net Worth -147122 -146887  -146293
Percentage Change -.76% .15% .40%

Have you encouraged someone who is despairing?

Net Worth Week 30 – Don’t Sleep on the Job

10/21/16 10/28/16 11/4/16
Joy 1101 1101 1102
Travel 323 323 324
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 1005 105 105
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 1942 2145  2256
IRA 10011 9917  9773
Brokerage 399 391  377
CC (largest) -4559 -4499  -4479
CC (longest) -62 0 0
Rewards Card -383 -647  -199
SL 1 -103044 -103159  -103275
SL 2 -45368 -45421  -45474
Earnest -7736 -7752  -7768
Net Worth -146000 -147122  -146887
Percentage Change .31% -.76% .15%

Have you picked out your Election Day outfit?

Net Worth Week 29 – Halloween is Scary Edition

10/14/16 10/21/16 10/28/16
Joy 1101 1101 1101
Travel 323 323 323
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 1005 1005 105
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 946 1942  2145
IRA 9914 10011  9917
Brokerage 400 399 391
CC (largest) -4559 -4559  -4499
CC (longest) 0 -62 0
Rewards Card 0 -383  -647
SL 1 -102929 -103044  -103159
SL 2 -45316 -45368  -45421
Earnest -7720 -7736  -7752
Net Worth -146463 -146000  -147122
Percentage Change .11% .31% -.76%

How are you celebrating Halloween?

Reading Makes You Happier

Gentle Readers,

Some among you may have wondered at my particular format. Why I open as I do. You shouldn’t be shocked to learn that it is in homage to a book. “Jane Eyre” fundamentally shaped my existence. The way that Currer Bell addressed his readers in both the preface to the second edition and in the work itself. When Currer states unequivocally that “Conventionality is not morality. Self-righteousness is not religion.” while still actually being a person of deep religious belief and conviction, I noticed.  It has done society great good for folks to not confuse what is normal with what is right. Folks on the path to FIRE know that conventional money beliefs are not for them.

Charlotte Bronte’s re-shaping of what is possible in a novel included directly addressing her readers. Sometimes with an almost out-of-place paragraph about the feelings and place of women in society, and sometimes by letting us know that “Gentle Reader, I married him.”  (spoiler alert, but it’s been over a century).

I was reminded of my love of “Jane Eyre,” this summer by a New Yorker piece. The author had been gifted a session with a bibliotherapist. It seems that a bibliotherapist literally prescribes specific reading to help their patients. I was intrigued. I have done this for myself and others for as long as I could access the written word.

I worried that this would be another boring list of the 100 greatest novels, which don’t necessarily stand the test of time as well as the creators of such lists would like.  However, the author clarifies “I’ve long been wary of the peculiar evangelism of certain readers: You must read this, they say, thrusting a book into your hands with a beatific gleam in their eyes, with no allowance for the fact that books mean different things to people—or different things to the same person—at various points in our lives.”

For me, “Jane Eyre” has meant a great many things. When I first found her as a lonely middle schooler in a very bad environment, I saw a way out. If I modeled myself after Jane and worked very diligently at my academics and always held very strictly to my sense of morality, I should be able to get out of my bad environment. When I re-read it through high school as a balm, it acted as a talisman. It defended me against many injustices that I had no other recourse to counter at the time.

With all of that, and having read it over twenty times, it is not my go-to recommendation for folks. It is a very particular sort of novel. It does not sit well for everyone. It will not mean the same thing for them. That does not mean that the novel is bad, but that it is not appropriate to the situation. And some folks are unwilling to read something so long.

In bibliotherapy, the therapist gives you a questionnaire detailing your reading habits among other things. The author continues,

“What is preoccupying you at the moment?,” I was surprised by what I wanted to confess: I am worried about having no spiritual resources to shore myself up against the inevitable future grief of losing somebody I love, I wrote. I’m not religious, and I don’t particularly want to be, but I’d like to read more about other people’s reflections on coming to some sort of early, weird form of faith in a “higher being” as an emotional survival tactic. Simply answering the questions made me feel better, lighter.”

The author is prescribed some fiction and nonfiction after a series of email exchanges with the bibliotherapist. The author reads them at her leisure and desire over the next few years. She finds the insights she gains helpful, but nebulous.

Personally, I’ve done this. Every time I need to branch out into a dormant portion of my life. I read.

I read when I wanted to come out, but was terrified.  I read when I wanted to walk away from religion, but was worried that I was wrong. I read when I wanted to start a business, but felt inadequate to the task. I read when my heart hurt. I read when my heart was bursting with joy.

There are certain books I re-read in many seasons. I am never surprised when I see that “people who read a lot of fiction tend to be better at empathizing with others.” I know that whole worlds have opened up to me through reading. My friend Financial Libre has also written about this very topic. As I told FL, the books I’ve read in the past two years that have altered my thinking the most are Exile and Pride and this biography of Frances Perkins. While neither is fiction, they both helped me understand different ways of being. They’ve helped me be better.

Have any books altered your existence?

Net Worth Week 28

10/7/16 10/14/16 10/21/16
Joy 1101 1101 1101
Travel 323 323 323
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 284 284 284
EF 1005 1005 1005
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 596 946  1942
IRA 10007 9914  10011
Brokerage 401 400 399
CC (largest) -4652 -4559  -4559
CC (longest) 0 0 -62
Rewards Card 0 0  -383
SL 1 -102813 -102929  -103044
SL 2 -45263 -45316  -45368
Earnest -7713 -7720  -7736
Net Worth -146637 -146463  -146000
Percentage Change .23% .11%  .31%

How are your Octobers going?

Net Worth Week 27

9/30/16 10/7/16 10/14/16
Joy 1100 1101 1101
Travel 323 323 323
Down Payment 19 19 19
Retirement 21 21 21
Health 45 45 45
Moving 283 284 284
EF 1004 1005 1005
Business 1 1 1
Bed 0.29 0.29 0.29
Life 1596 596  946
IRA 10033 10007  9914
Brokerage 400 401 400
CC (largest) -4660 -4652  -4559
CC (longest) 0 0 0
Rewards Card -701 0  0
SL 1 -102957 -102813  -102929
SL 2 -45328 -45263  -45316
Earnest -8160 -7713  -7720
Net Worth -146981 -146637  -146463
Percentage Change -.69% .23%  .11%

Have you ever contacted an expert to learn that you have all the knowledge necessary?

This Would Have Been a Book Review If They Had Done Their Homework

Gentle Readers,

I was asked to read “It Is Only Money and It Grows on Trees!”  and I was given a free copy and asked to review it for y’all.

Essentially, this book wants to get folks to understand their beliefs about money. Which could be an interesting topic, but this book wants to discuss religious ideas about money. Again, this could be fascinating, but I personally have no interest in whether “Mary was a truly spiritual woman.” I could have read more, but slightly further down page 8, this book clarified that part of its hope is to mark off who is a good Christian or not, i.e.”Frank and Mary were both Christians. Or maybe we should say they both went to church.” There is so much judgment in this phrasing. As a person raised by fundamentalists, I’m not down for subjecting myself to this book.

This makes me suspect that the people who reached out to me had not read my blog at all. I am not a religious person. I wrote openly about this when I was telling y’all how to be better allies when the LGBT community suffered the horrifying attack this summer.

In case you don’t want to click through,

“14. Don’t take personal offense if an LGBTQ person does not want your prayer – so many of your religions have been used to bludgeon us. At times, to death. If you are praying to comfort us, you may want to consider our actual experiences with people using praying as a weapon to “pray the gay away” and how it would make you feel if strangers prayed about the way you experienced sex and intimacy.”

You should do your homework before asking someone to do something for you. I know that not all lesbians are atheists, but part of being a respectful neighbor includes being careful when you bring up your religion. You should not assume that it is a welcome conversation for folks. It is deeply private and personal for many people. The fact that you live in a nation that is largely one religion does not make it any more polite to assume folks want such a fraught topic brought up.

I only read books that interest me, because there is only so much joy and time in the world. I won’t be reading this one.

Have you ever been confused by someone’s request because it did not take into account who you are as a person?